I would like to say one thing which seems to be obvious to me.

But we are here to have fun.

Thayan RP goes with rules. And they might be quite oppressive for slave. Playing a Thayan in the Enclave is to have a bit fun with the rules.
Let's say that is a minimum. Theses rules have to be followed in a IC way.

But, the fun come first. And if for any reason, you feel that you are not in the mood, just send a tell and we will find an IC reason.

I'm going to give some example to be more clear :

• You are playing a female lesbian slave only. ICly, you have to obey to any order or be heavily punished. So, we may order you to have sex with a male. But we are not here to spoil your fun. So, just tell that you only ERP with female character and the other player has to find a IC explanation to do so.
  
  
• You have to kneel to the higher rank in a room. But you don't really have fun with the player. You send him a tell what you want to leave and the player will dismiss you.
  

Of course, it's always better to deal in IC. But we are here all together to have fun. And we will always be willing to bend the rules to not spoil your fun.

About the ERP, even if IC, you have to accept anything, the OOC rules prevails. Don't forget to set your ERP. And even then, it's your responsability to tell the other player that you want to stop because you feel uncomfortable. And the other player has to stop. If not, go to OOC lounge and ask a DM.