Okay so recently I have been approached by five different enclave players who have mentioned what they feel is ooc bullying, ooc abusing of red lights, ooc disrespect and ooc anger. I wont give any names nor will I try and and single anyone out, the point of this post it to try and resolve the issues that have been mentioned and to help avoid any drama in the enclave, I've seen this happen before and it blew up into a huge thing so I am trying to take steps to avoid it again, I enjoy playing in the enclave and have played lomi for almost a year and a half now, and haven for two and would like to see the enclave continue to strive forward and give great role playing for all involved.

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People are mean :


First off and by far the most important part, please everyone remember this is a game, we are all here to have fun and chances are the reason your playing an online game is you want to play with other people who may share similar interests, giving everyone an enjoyable experiences, their is no reason to try and insult or hurt someone else feeling here, remember ooc every person is just like you, and their is someone sitting, stand or laying behind the monitor you are interacting with, I know the internet does allot to ruin peoples inhibition towards showing emotions and allot of people hide behind it, but everyone is here to have a good time.


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Slaves having reds violated:

Second point, I've heard allot from people who play slaves and from other people talking about points slaves have brought up, people not obeying their red lights, this seems like a pretty one sided thing but its not, just because you have red lights put up in place does not mean if someone does something that you consider red lighted that they are purposefully or maliciously doing it or are even aware that they are doing it. Some people have different views on what the erp preffs mean, I know what some people consider light torture others would consider heavy, it all depends on the person. If you feel someone has or is violating your erp preffs make sure you tell them !! Seriously if someone does violate your erp preffs and you don't tell them then you are the one who is to blame not the person violating them, allot of things aren't covered in the erp preffs and I've had two player come up to me and bitch about someone ooc saying they did this or that in the past four days and when I ask them the simple question if they sent a tell and asked about it both of them said no, and became defensive about it as if it is an expectation that the person acting as the dom role knows exactly what they like and dislike, the only way to do this is to tell them. . . so if this is the case sorry my subby fried but you are the one to blame and are causing unnecessary drama and need to reevaluate your self an weather or not you should be here. How ever if you do send them a tell and they for what ever strange reason don't care that you are uncomfortable and are violating your erp preffs just because they can then take a screen shot and send it to a dm, that is against the server rules. However the more likely scenario is you send the dom message and then you to come to a conclusion of what you would constituent a fair and enjoyable erp for both of you that both of you enjoy. And the last point of this is set your erp preffs if you have allot of red lights someone came up to me and was complaining about someone they felt violated their erp, and when I asked if they sent them a tell or had their erp preffs filled out they said no, especially leaving the dom in the dark, and they ooc stirring up drama. Ill give two scenarios and how they can be resolved fast simply.




Player1 drags player2 away by the hair ic after player2'a slave did something that warranted player1's, if player2 does not wish to be disciplined or to play with player1 in this manor they can send play1 a tell explaining they do not desire to do this at this time.

Player1 is in a scene with player2, player2 does something player1 feels extremely uncomfortable with and wishes player2 would stop, all player1 has to do is send a tell to player2 and ask them to stop, maybe explain what they find wrong with it, or maybe not, but if someone says stop ooc in the serve rules you must stop.


Same situation as above, but player2 says to bad, simply take a screen shot and walk your character away, or go into the ooc, player continues to hassle you take more screen shots and send them to a dm, the dm will most likely take care of it and it could result in a ban should they harass you.


Also a few of the complaints I've heard were against some people who are really sweet people ooc, and I know if they brought up their problems to these people they would be more than happy to fix anything and apologize for upsetting them or putting them somewhere they don't want to be. Remember just because someone plays a bitch of a character ic hardly means they are a bitch ooc, in fact I finds its often the opposite oocly their some of the nicest people.

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Respecting Older players and Newer ones :

Okay now this is a bit of a tricky one but can easily be rectified as long as you are willing to understand where someone if coming from. Allot of the older players have come back recently and a few have made comments about the "New Generation" And mentioned allot about the old ways and some seem to be trying to force it back to the old way. Everyone has to remember that everyone is different everyone has different wants, needs, and though patterns, and as new players come and old players leave so to must the enclave adapt and change if it is to remain an enjoyable experience for all, the rules must change and be rewritten so as to better adapt towards the playing style of the characters and players involved. Remember old characters you left the enclave and came back you can not expect everyone to bow down to you just because you logged time a while ago, and most of the new players might not even know who you are and you can't just come back back and tell someone that the rp they made for them self's and are enjoying is wrong and they have to go back to the old ways, because their the "Proper ways." And as for the newer players you have to show some amount of respect for the old players their the reason the enclave is around, populated, and are the reason you are having the enjoyable rp that you are having, remember they set the base-work for everything that you are doing, they started gathering items, gold and treaties something that allot of new people are burning through, and remember they put in allot of effort and work into building the enclave many many hours and don't want to see it destroyed.

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OOC dislike for a player:


Okay its a part of life, you wont get along with everyone, its impossible to but their is no reason why your ooc dislike for someone should ever be involved in you ic actions. Everyone likes and dislikes certain people its part of being human I have players I like to play with and those I don't but I still rp with them when I have to and never let it go ic, and I never go out of my way to hurt or harm that person's characters or reputation, I let my own dislike for that character remain my own as their is no reason for it to affect anyone else besides them, I've told them I don't enjoy rp with them and they in turn have told me that as well, we simply avoid each other which is the only real proper thing to do. Our characters meet but we do out best to stay out of each other rp, why because were grown up, and we act like adults not petty children. If someone is harassing you constantly take a screen shot and send it to a dm, make sure you get screen shots before what ever it is that you figure is them harassing you and after shots so that the dms can verify that you are not just cutting what you want them to see and are possibly the instigator your self. How ever the first thing that you should do if you feel like you dislike someone is . . . OOC message them, talk about what it is that you dislike about their behavior and what it is that is bugging you, honestly their are allot of really nice caring people on the server and if you two talk about it chances are it could all be a misunderstanding, its happened to me and now i'm rather good friends oocly with the person who did that, it turned out to be a huge misunderstanding.

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Ic Rank:


Okay this one is really easy, ic rank has nothing to do with someones ooc right to feel like they belong or their ooc right to fair and decent role playing, ic rank is only good for ic, ooc every single person is the exact same from the lowest worst behaived slave to the khazark both have the same rights and should be treated and respected the same regardless. Someone can ic force you to erp with them, but ooc no one can force you to do anything, ever ! Simple as that, if you feel someone is treating you unfairly send them a message and talk about it, get to the bottom off what you feel the problem is.

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Common theme !!!


Talk to each other ooc, get to know someone ooc, chances are most of the people you will get along with and have a good time with, their is absolutely no reason why if anything comes up that bugs you or you are unsure about you should not ask and talk about, remember to use a clear open mind, think about it from both perspective, and lay out your points vs theirs, don't get hot headed and just spam them and yell at them calling them names or swearing at them. Remember talk about the problems and chance are you can come to a compromise, their is no need to bug a dm or someone just because something does not go your way, and if you need ask someone else to be a mediator, both of you give your points and see what he/she has to say, If anyone need or want one I would be more than willing to volunteer in order to avoid more drama. Drama is the enemy of cooperation and one of the few things I have little to no patience for.